Enjoying a nougat ice cream at Senior Center bingo

Welcome to AnnaGrams, a monthly-ish newsletter sharing writing clips, dating/sex advice, book recs and freebies, and other feel-good stuff from around the interwebs.

I’m honored to be sharing precious inbox space with the Bed, Bath & Beyond coupons and mooning-elf gifs from your mom. (Just me?)

✨ Readers like you make my work possible. Get a discounted annual subscription for $30 (about the equivalent of buying a hardcover book, plus tax).

That’s 57 cents per week!

Free subscribers get

  • monthly updates, advice, free romance books by other authors, and bear selfies

Free subscribers are cherished. Another form of payment is to share AnnaGrams with others and encourage them to subscribe.

Paid subscribers get

  • exclusive, unpublished essays

  • novel excerpts

  • other behind-the-scenes content

  • a chance to support an independent artist

Founder subscribers get

  • all of the above, plus the signed print editions of my books when they are published

  • my eternal gratitude and appreciation and awe

Join us!

Wait, who are you again?

I’m Anna Pulley. I’m queer, multiracial (white/Native American/Latinx), and hard of hearing. Even with hearing aids, I mishear A LOT. One time I yelled at a bird because I thought it was catcalling me.

I’m the author of rom-coms, erotica (Transgressions: Erotic Stories, pen name Anastasia Fleur) and gay-ass poetry (The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!), which Tegan and Sara said was "an adorable and hilarious way to start the day," Cheryl Strayed called a "must-read," and Bound actress Jennifer Tilly said was "thoroughly charming."

I also write a weekly sex and dating advice column for The Chicago Tribune and have been published in New York magazine, Mother Jones, The Washington Post, San Francisco magazine (the issue I contributed to won a National Magazine Award), Vice, Salon, BuzzFeed, and many others. I’ve been called a Top LGBTQ Writer on Medium. I’ve been a repeat guest on Dan Savage's podcast, Savage Love, on Daniel Lavery's "Dear Prudence" podcast, and on the popular 99% Invisible podcast.

Want more?

Connect with me on social media for more frequent doses of puns, advicey videos (bear with me as I attempt to learn TikTok), pictures of my hot wife, Vika, and our codo cat, Ricky, photobombing us.

IG: @lezbianna / TW: @annapulley

If you have any questions, feedback, or just wanna say hey, email me at anna@annapulley.com.

Talk to you soon, 


Why subscribe?

Get updates from Anna Pulley, essays, novels, haikus, romance and erotica freebies, sex and dating advice, inspiring links, creativity experiments, and more.

Stay up-to-date

You won’t have to worry about missing anything. Every new edition of the newsletter goes directly to your inbox.

Join the crew

Get exclusive access to new works, free and discounted books, a community of likeminded folks, and more.

Subscribe to AnnaGrams

On creativity, hope, and living life on your own terms. Plus, free romance/erotica, poetry, and links that make you smile or make you think.


I’m a bestselling author, former journalist, and flesh pillow to a codo cat. I write novels, relationship advice, and essays about being awkward at sex parties—though here I mainly write about creativity, hope, and living life on your own terms.