The small but steady cup

March roundup: Women's History Month, setting goals, and remembering pleasure

Photo by Luca Volpe

This week was hard. The news is an endless parade of landmines we can't not step on. I walked outside in an attempt to remember the joy of sun on my face and instead felt the bitter crush of wind chilling me through my clothes.

But then, despite the cold, I caught a whiff of rosemary blooming. Or it caught me. And I remembered, too, how some things exist only to be sweet.

I am endeavoring to pay a little more attention to the sweet. To let it be a small but steady cup from which everything good in us fills and empties and fills.

I'm grateful to you and all the ways you fill me.

Advice

Ask Anna: He’s the perfect boyfriend, except for his gaming obsession

Ask Anna: Rebuilding trust after digital infidelity

Ask Anna: When a partner’s FIRE (financial independence, retire early) obsession leaves you burnt

Ask Anna: Trapped in a toxic relationship? How to breakup safely

Also, if you’re doing Sapphic Book Bingo, Courtship is featured this week in the childhood friends to lovers category.

Freebies

Spring hasn’t officially sprung, but well, other things have…

Sapphic Builder March

Rainbow Reads

Steamy Romance (mostly straight)

LQBTQ+ Freebies

Contemporary Romance (mostly straight)

LGBTQIA+ Romance & Fiction

Linkspiration

32 ways to celebrate Women’s History Month

If you’re feeling despair and hopelessness about the current political climate, taking action (even a tiny one) helps. To that end, I’ve been appreciating Jess Craven and her Chop Wood, Carry Water newsletter, the work of the States Project (thanks,

Matriarchy Report

!), and

The White Pages

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Have your New Year’s resolutions petered out? Science says to tackle only 1 goal at a time

Paul Crenshaw

experiments with form in this slew of opening paragraphs about childhood, cancer, memory, and grief

A weekly dose of research-backed insights, motivation, and Laura Gassner Otting's signature kick in the pants wrapped in a warm hug

Daily 1-min summaries of top productivity content to become your best self

Sapphic author Jae has a comprehensive post on how to make sure more of your money is going to authors you support

Author Mark Manson (of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck fame) sends one idea, one question, and one exercise to help you achieve your next breakthrough. 5 minutes each week might change your life.

A visual search engine to find beautiful art, photography, decoration ideas or anything else with the “same energy”

Hot Box

(An oldie but a goodie)

Yours,

Anna

P.S. It’s Vika’s and my five year anniversary next week! (Two years married.) This is us on our second date.

P.P.S. What book blew your mind as a teenager? Looking for recs.

For me it was Cunt by Inga Muscio, a book that didn’t really hold up past the age of about 22 (though your mileage may vary!), but it was revelatory for me to read an unabashed account of this oft-maligned body part, especially on the cusp of unraveling a lot of untruths about my young self.